In-Person and/or Virtual Sessions

Through a combination of individual and joint in-person and/or virtual sessions with you and your partner, we will meet to explore the patterns you fall into that create feelings of being disconnected from one another. Whether you are dating, engaged, or married (with or without children), feeling stuck is painful and results in unmet needs. Improving connection, communication, and understanding of one another goes a long way to having the secure relationship you both want! 

When the root cause of the presenting issue is relational, it is helpful to have both individuals in the therapy room so the context and function of the behaviour is understood and not assumed.

"There is No 'Bad Guy' Here"

By understanding what each of you brings into the relationship through your 'childhood blueprints' we can explore how each of you feels triggered in your stuck cycle, and what you do to cope and protect yourself as a result that may, in turn, trigger your partner. When both partners feel triggered and stuck in their own experience and emotions it is difficult to empathize and connect with each other. Thus, we feel disconnected, lonely, and hurt by the person we wish to feel connected with the most. This cycle repeats further rupturing the relationship and creating more distance and disconnect. 

Once we have an understanding of this stuck cycle and how each partner is impacted, we can begin to explore how to step out of it and into a new interactive pattern based on trust, understanding, and communication.

How Does This Work: The Therapy Roadmap 

Early sessions consist of me learning about you, your partner, and your relationship through individual and joint sessions. I will learn about your 'childhood blueprint' and the stuck cycle that brings you into therapy, as well as your hopes for your relationship and therapy. The first few sessions also provide you an opportunity to get to know me and develop your comfort and safety of being with me in session.

Next, the 'stuck cycle' becomes our collective focus as we begin to explore how it is experienced by both of you and the deeper, often hidden pieces, about what this is actually about for each of you - in my experience, it is never about the dishwasher or other surface-level issue! We will sit in this hard place together as I support you both to understand and empathize with your partner's emotions and experience.

As you both become more familiar with your collective triggers and recognizing the stuck cycle when it starts to occur, you will begin to step out of the cycle with growing ease, signaling it is time to develop a new way of interacting based on trust, communication, connection and security.

Finally, as you each develop a new awareness and understanding of yourself, and your emotions and experiences, we work collectively to choreograph a new connected cycle where both of you implement new effective strategies to express relational needs and accept care and support from one another.